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Your Advice For Advice
Hello, Ladies!
There are a number of people who e-mail us seeking advice. Here is an e-mail that was sent to us and I’m not exactly sure how to answer it. I am asking for YOU to give YOUR advice on this situation by leaving a comment so we can help our Pastry sister out with her dilemma.
Get ready for our Advice Column that is coming soon. If you have a problem and need advice, please e-mail advice@pastrykicks.com.
V & A’s BFF Inga aka Inga In The Know
hey V & A! 1st i love all your stuff. i have a problem i need you to help me out with. i have a boyfriend by the name of *****. he is a big time athlete where we live. he is trying to get a scholarship to play football at a well known university. he is very good. he is strong and runs really fast. the only problem is is he is not as big as other players in other counties. he says he has to win the scholarship to get into college because he is the oldest and his mother is a single parent that has four other children to take care of by herself. he is so desprit that he has started taking steroids. he has become a better athlete and has had a few scouts come to his house. i know i should be happy for him but something seems strange. he yells at me now over the littlest thing. last week he screamed at me because i did not answer my cell phone rite away. he accused me of cheating on him (which is not true) and was screaming at me in my face nose to nose for 15minutes. he punched the wall and put a hole in it then spit in my face. i broke down and cried. he said that he only gets mad like that because he loves me and will marry me. he says if he did not get that mad at me it would mean he does not really love me. 2 days ago he argued with me in his car because when i picked up his food from the fast food place his cheeseburger had onions on it. he screamed in my face again asking me if i was trying to give him bad breath so i wouldn’t have to kiss him. then he elbowed me in my arm very hard. he then threw his milkshake in my face and threw me out his car and drove off. he only went around the block and came back to getme. he apologized to me and cried. he wanted to make it up to me and took me shopping the next day.
what should i do? some of my friends have always thought he was bad for me and coo coo for coco puffs (for those who don’t know what that means it means crazy). some of my friends just think he is just acting out becuz he is stressed out over the scholarship and i should be understanding of his problems. some say it’s only the steroids and that i should be patient until it balances out. and some think he is too fine and a man with a very bright future with lots of money coming his way. they think i will be stupid to let him go. i am confused because some friends say one thing and some say something else. also, i am in love with him. i don’t know what to do and i really really really need your help (or even your fathers since he always has good advice.
If he keep taking steroid you need to leave him cause that’s bad for him. And he needs help with his problem.
April 2nd, 2008 at 5:29 pmif u love him this shouldn’t be a problem and u need 2 tell him steriods r not good 4 him, he could go 2 jail,and lose him chances of a scholarship. u also need 2 tell him that he can’t keep going off on u and yelling like that.
April 2nd, 2008 at 7:33 pmi think u need to leave him alone cuz if he is going to take his anger out on u than he need to see a specialist. I think he is just worried about bein able to go to a gud college. So I think u should leave him alone.
April 2nd, 2008 at 8:59 pmIf he loves you he wouldn’t act like that and he wouldn’t take steroids.
April 2nd, 2008 at 9:10 pmhey girl if your man treats you that way you have to ask yourself 2 questions one is being yelled at and hit by your man really worth it? and two if he loves you so much why is he actting like that. i understand he is stressed out with getting in to college but it doesnt matter how stressed out he is he should never ever yell at you like that if i was in your situation i would have left the first day he yelled at me. no women deserves that i dont care if you got hes order wrong u dont deserve that and i suggest you get outta that relationship as soon as possible before things get worst good luck and god bless
April 2nd, 2008 at 10:32 pmAs I read this, I was cringing. Everytime I got to another line I’d be saying, “Please don’t say he hit her. Please DON’T say he hit her.” Then the other shoe fell. Well, I’m known for being sort of blunt (esp about things like this), but because you didn’t ask me for advice on this sitch (you asked Vanessa and Angela), I’ll narrow it down to one word: Pride.
A lot of people say that it’s not good to have pride at all, and most of those people are women with black eyes and bruises from their “significant” other. Where is your pride? I don’t know you at all, but I guarantee you that you’re worth so much more than that. If you love him more than you love yourself, then something’s wrong.
I can’t say for sure if the steroids themselves are making him act this way or what, but because you didn’t say he acted like this prior… I’m gonna go with yeah! This situation is not healthy for either one of you.
Two things: Don’t try to justify his actions. There’s no reason at all that he should be putting his hands on your (elbowing definitely counts), spitting on you (i would have LOST my mind!), throwing a freaking milkshake on you…
And about that whole “shopping-to-make-up-for-being-crazy” thing… please don’t! Just don’t!
Listen, I’m praying for you. Like I said, I don’t know you but I definitely don’t like that you’re in this situation.
(so much for narrowing it down… ^_^)
April 2nd, 2008 at 11:53 pmGood Morning to all,
I agree with Trelisa, she is right I don’t know you I don’t know how old you are but there is one thing I do know your to young to be going thru things like this yea we could say it the steroids,stress or whatever else we want to say but you should NEVER I mean NEVER let anyone spit in you face talk to you crazy or even hit you ever. We could say leave him alone all day long but until you get tired you are gonna do what you want to do, I will be praying for you because this could get out of hand and you could get hurt or he could get hurt. I know we don’t like talking to our parents but some time you have to sit down and talk to them I had to learn the hard way but they have been thru some of the things we have been thru or going through I know your dad,granddad,uncle, brother or cousin would not be happy if they knew this guy was treating you like this and they would want to hurt this guy. You should be treated like the QUEEN that you are baby girl and shopping to make up for the damages he has done DO NOT DO THAT AGAIN!!! as long as he know he can do whatever to you and make up for it with material things he will keep doing. Im young im not in high school im only 23 but I know I love myself to much to let a boy because he’s not a man yet but boy take me through hell and back Im going to pray for you please keep up posted, Don’t let nobody make up your mind up for you, you take some time to think about it pray about it ask God what do you need to do and listen for his answer….. Remember what I said talk to your parents or God parents and they may get mad but the can save you from a world of pain and drama and if you have parents that do not care Your god parents grand parents, your pastor, aunt, uncle or cousin but it has to be somebody positive. This is my last thing and Im closing wahtever friend told you he is about to make money ” MONEY DO NOT BUY HAPPINESS” it is not everything honey Im praying that God deliver you out of this problem quick, you be Blessed hold your head up high don’t let this bring you down you are to young he is only your boyfriend don’t even think about marrying anybody that would put his hands on you, spit in your face or talk to you crazy because it would only get worse but marriage should not be on your mind you are in High school you have your whole life ahead of you. I love you and God Bless please keep us posted your pastry family in concerned and is willing to give you positvie feedback men come and go don’t let your firends tell you he is a good man and he could be but there is always some one BETTER. God Bless
Love,
April 3rd, 2008 at 8:34 amNay!!!
I saw this exact same thing on a tv shoe “George Lopez”. It’s the steriods. As long as he uses them. things are bound to be like this. Some how he needs to understand that him taking steriods can completely mess his chances up more than him just being smaller than the rest. It is going to continue to make him angry, I would not say give him an ultimatum, but some how he needs to realize that what he is doing is not only messing up your relationship, but messing his self up and will eventually come back to haunt him. Good luck with everything.
April 3rd, 2008 at 8:57 amGiiiirrrrrlll! Some of your friends thought he was crazy from the beginning. Some of your friends think it is just the steroids. And some of your friends think he is too fine and will make $$$$. SOME OF YO FRIENDS NEEDED TO GET TOGETHER AND WHOOP HIS BUTT!!!! If your friends said he was crazy before the steroids they were probably right. I’m sure the signs were there. I don’t care what the situation is nobody should treat you like that! H e better be glad it was not me who he spit on or threw a milkshake on. It would’ve gone DOWWWWN! My gurlz would’ve had my back! I hope you plan on going to college and do something for yourself. You are too young to be even thinking of marriage. All you can do now is get fat and pregnant and lefy alone with a baby. Go to college like I plan on doing next year along with a whole lot of other girls.
April 3rd, 2008 at 9:54 amWow!! i agree with every1 who posted above….girl there is noooo reason for him to yell, elbow, throw things at you, Spit on you..or any of the other things you stated. When you love someone you dont do things like that to them. My advice is that you honstly get out of the relationship before it turns any more physical and then its too late. You should then tell someone else so that hell be able to get the help that he needs. College is very stressful, and he seems like he has alot on his mind, that I understand. But sweety that is no reason to take it out on you…
Ultimately the decision is up to you, but I will be praying and I really hope that you get out, n get out soon..
Much love,
April 3rd, 2008 at 10:51 amC
It’s simple like this… Get of the D**N STEROIDS AND THEN WORK EVERYTHING OUT!
April 3rd, 2008 at 2:11 pmIF ALL THIS DIDN’T HAPPEN BEFORE THE STEROIDS, THEN IT’S OBVIOUS THAT IT PLAYS A BIG BIG BIG BIG BIG BIG BIG BIG BIG ROLE IN THIS BEHAVIOR. hope that helped
Well i would just not know wat to do ! lol sike now serioussly! Do she think he is the right person for him! basicly its her choice but i understand she needs help! i would go crazy but if he love you then stay with him and see if things progress! if not talk to him and share to him how you really feel! tht should be some good advice im givin LOL! but i think you shouldnt listen to wat someone else says! just listen to watz in your heart and also GOD! he always know wat to do! He may b stressing out but tht still dont have a reason to let it out on u! but thtz how i feel and thtz my advice!
April 3rd, 2008 at 2:27 pmSigned Bestcheerleader!
Christina is on the same page with me though!
April 3rd, 2008 at 2:28 pmI think you should let him go and see how he would react when your not around him. Talk to him or his mother and tell her what is going on with him.Tell him he need to take it easy on the steriods and how you feel about him taking the steriods. Listen to ur mind and do what it tells u to do.
April 3rd, 2008 at 4:30 pmHONEY PLEASE GET OUT OF THAT SITUATION BECAUSE IF IT’S THAT BAD NOW AND HE DOESN’T EVEN HAVE THE FAME OR MONEY THAT ME MIGHT HAVE LATER IT WILL ONLY AND SURELY GET WORST AND THEN HE’LL BE CHEATING ON YOU. AND WHEN YOU DO LEAVE HIM LET HIM KNOW WITH PEOPLE AROUND AND HAVE SOMEONE LEAVE WITH YOU OR PICK YOU UP!
April 3rd, 2008 at 5:02 pmhey girl for real steroids or not there is no reason dude should be spittin in ur face n punchin holes in the wall that is straight up wack. and u shouldnt put up with ish like that. im sorry but i wouldnt wanna marry a dude who is doin that kinda stuff so earli on in the game.
April 3rd, 2008 at 5:22 pmOne more word of advice… Go watch some Lifetime Original Movies! Especially the one with Candace Cameron and Fred Savage.
April 3rd, 2008 at 5:28 pmHey girl, well I’m guessing I’m younger than you, 14 to be exact. But my friends has ask me for advice and most of it are boy issues. Listen most of the ladies on here has given you great advice. But to be honest you have to tell yourself that you don’t deserve to be elbowed, spitted on, a target for a throwed milkshake. all young women and ladies should be treated like queens.I know you don’t wanna leave him but if it means to be unhappy for the rest of your life it isn’t worth it. If i was in that situation i would put the relationship on pause and say “hey if you’re going to be taking your frustrations out on me and wanna be putting your hands on me you’re not worth my time”. You have to decide whether you want to be single and to be happy or to be in a relationship that brings you nothing but pain. All I’m saying is that the descision making is on you, make a descision that will not only benefit you but will benefit him, sometimes we have to let go the people we really love the most to better ourselves.
April 3rd, 2008 at 6:05 pmTake care and best of luck!! GOD BLESS!!
Hey gurl, Im sorry your going threw this but dont give up it will be all good when you come out. I think that you should leave him alone because he is putting your life in danger. I think you should pray for him that he gets the scholarship,gets his right mind back, and that God protects the both of you. Also I think maybe yall can be close friends and in the future yall can should get back with each other. If your feeln him and he feeln you. Or maybe yall dont have to breakup jus tell him you need a little space to think.You should pray and ask God to lead you the right way. You should ask God what to do and for him to help you and your boy friend.
God Bless & I am going to pray 4 yall.
April 3rd, 2008 at 7:20 pmTake care
-Lov Nay
i think that you should very much try to take him to a therpist and if that doesnt work then just leave him alone because this could lead to some abusing problems.
April 3rd, 2008 at 7:40 pmgood luck!!!!!!!!!!
If he stops taking steroids and focus less on the scholarship and see if that helps him going back to his normal ways and if he doesn’t than you may have to tale that chance and break it off.If he is your true love than he will not only stop for you, but if you lose in touch you will meet again some way.
April 3rd, 2008 at 8:53 pmomg i can’t even believe what i have just read. girl you better leave him and i mean (quickly) because i seems to me that this situation has totally gotten to the point where he feels that its o.k. to be doing what he is doing (ahhhhhh wrong) it is not o.k. baby and i know that i am probably not that much older than you are but it really has to end. my heart is breaking right now and i hope that you wise up little sister because you dont need to lose your self worth so that he feels good. you dont need that kind of energy in your life and i wish you LOVE..PEACE..& HAPPINESS.
GOD BLESS - WITH LOVE (that actress girl_ cassie
April 3rd, 2008 at 10:52 pmI so agree with TreLisa once again!!!!!!!!!!!
April 4th, 2008 at 7:49 amokay i kno that im younger than u but u really need 2 get out of that situation. i think that u guys should still b friends mayb even best friends if u break up w/him. and i think that you should stand up 2 him. he’s gonna keep on hittin u and spittin at u only if u let him. all of this might b b/c of the steroids b/c u didnt say anything abt him beatin u b4. but u need 2 stand up 2 him. stand up 4 urself. a woman should not b treated that way especially by the person she luvs……..i hope and pray that u will find wisdom n wat all of yo pastry sistas r tellin u
southm08
April 4th, 2008 at 5:43 pmHey girl! Now I can understand how much u care for your boifriend, BUT he needs to respect you no matter what the situation is. Yelling at you in the
April 4th, 2008 at 7:43 pmface for 15 minutes shows that lack of respect that you deserve and spitting in your face would draw the line for me, but mabey he needs time without you in then he would realize how much he misses u. And trust me there is another boy out there you want someone to relieve your stress not put more on… Good luck!
I understand where ur coming from but, if he really loves u he wouldn’t put his ahnds on u whether taking steroids or not. Also why take steroids to get big and buff evry athlete isnt big and buff, very muscular but, I doubt they would want to jepordize their contract and lifetime dream bcuz of steroids. There are other ways. If u love him and want to be with him that much than u need to give him a choice that only he can make, by himself. He either can respect you and treat u how a woman should be treated or leave u alone until he can get himself together bcuz steroids can be addictive……and u don’t want this to get out of hand. I hope evrything works out.
April 5th, 2008 at 11:37 ami feel u jennifer
April 5th, 2008 at 11:57 amI think if you are not happy you should let him go and if the steriods become and addiction it can be fatal for him so I think he should try to get some help and I think no woman deserves to be hit whether its because of the steroids or not thats domestic violence and if the hits start getting worse and worse he can really hurt you.
April 5th, 2008 at 12:00 pmIf you love him like you say you do then sit down and have a talk with him and tell him you do understand that there is a lot on his plate right now but he’s taking his anger out on you and its getting out of control.I also think that you should have him see a consulor.You shouldn’t allow him to hit you even though he says it’s because he loves.If you all do end up getting married that can start to be a bad habit and you could end up in a bad abusive relationship so becareful. I hope things work put for the better!
April 5th, 2008 at 9:37 pmFirst of all you need to think about that wall and how it looked after he punched it. It’s not all about the scholarship going into making a lot of money remember this is your life men come and they go but you only have one life to live. God forbid he gets so angry with you and kill you, because when your angry alot of things can be going through anyones mind they don’t care who you are at times. And most of all you need to pray to God to really help him with his problem and to show you what to do in this situation. People are focusing on the money, honey please focus on your future and most of all your life.
April 7th, 2008 at 7:43 am“Strength Comes From Many Directions With or Without Affection”
Written by ~Siobhan Cecelia Collier~
Strength comes from many directions, with or without affection.
Wake up and pay attention, we are measured by our own reflection.
Pack your suitcase…and take only what you need.
Be thankful for what you have, not what is lost…nor merely dreamed.
Love cries when hope dies.
Don’t be surprised, you too are wise.
Look in the mirror…deep into your own eyes.
A zap of power you will surely find.
Yet never completely charged until…your heart heals.
How many life lessons must one endure and feel?
Life is all about your attitude, your character, your passion, your SPIRIT.
Pride is only here to swallow, drink enough of it…be shallow.
It’s never too late, to wipe a clean slate.
To some life is a Reality Show un-taped, be careful of the scripts you create.
Be true to yourself, and know no one else.
Self discipline is a challenge…abstaining is something else…
If your bar is raised higher than your actions, you’ll never ever gain satisfaction.
You can never change who you are, but can ALWAYS change where you are.
Never accept ordinary, expect extra-ordinary.
We all live for so many seasons; don’t spend a lifetime searching for reasons!
Strength comes from many directions, with or without affection…
“Do YOU Hear Me”
Written by Siobhan Cecelia Collier 4:35am March 7, 2008
Do YOU hear me, can you hear my heart beat?
How about when my spirit speaks?
Love cries when hope dies, hope cries when love dies.
Imagine what happens, when self love dies.
It begins with a sigh, lets out a huge cry.
Will someone hear; will it bring cannibals near?
How big are the tears, who will whisper in your ears?
Is it the enemy or the righteous?
You know many will try and fight us.
The worst enemy is yourself,
It controls everything including wealth, love, and mental health.
Clear your mind, dry your tears,
The stress will simply add on unwanted years.
The inner beauty will always shine through,
Remember nothing is missing unless you release it from inside of you.
Faith is stronger, it helps beauty live longer.
Your mind is love, and your love is mind.
Never let love lead you, your mind is its protector until the end of time.
Emotions bring forth weakness; mental strength keeps love from beating us.
Love is always turning on a spinning wheel,
It comes and it goes but your mind, its only here once and that is real.
Love is a force you can not control,
No matter how hard you try and resist,
It will naturally flow trust me I know.
You think you are ready for love, and then you find out bad news.
Be careful who you choose, take your time be patient,
Allow your spirit to move your shoes.
Love forms in many shapes, be careful of how many you create.
Selective is being protective, an open mind keeps you from going blind.
Fear will close many doors,
Crying tears allows you to open up to receive once more.
Holding in pain will continue a cycle,
Attracting bad energy, false love, & maintaining a grudge.
Unconditional love begins within you,
What you desire must come from in,
Before it may be true & surround you.
Don’t expect love to be easy,
We must work for what we wish to keep,
Family, fortune, love, and peace to rest completely & fall asleep.
Laziness leaves one eye open, may as well be a dead man walkin’.
Worry ends in restlessness, rejecting love encourages emptiness.
Giving means taking from you don’t complain it is a natural thing to do.
You can not expect it all if not willing to give at all.
Dust yourself off, you must fall; crawl, before you may stand tall.
Love is not true unless it’s equally given from one to equal two.
Meditate, speak consciously, and move freely,
Love comes with a price, compromise & sacrifice.
Do YOU hear me?
As for your mutual confusion on “love,” I write Poetry and find the two above fitting for you as well as your mate to read. If you allow someone to abuse or mistreat you, it is a reflection of yourself. Ask yourself why would you allow someone to treat you this way. Get to the root of it, do not allow your inner light to be dim. Face it, end it. You have the power, never allow someone to have power over you. It’s all about what you believe. Follow your spirit.
Steroids change men to behave with short tempers that flare out of control. If he does not stop taking them, the rage is going to increase. There are other solutions to increase his weight without hurting you as well as himself.
I had a hard time building weight due to high metabolisim, and found a way to go from 115lbs to 140lbs body building. I maxed out on the sqat machine at over 700lbs doing six reps. Men stopped to cut in in amazement. Perhaps he would try the recipe I followed: two raw eggs, one banana, vanilla icecream, & a lil sugar in a blender right after he works out to increase his muscle mass. I also read muscle and fitness mags for weight gain meal plans and followed them eating five meals per day.
In Love & Everlasting Divine Light,
April 7th, 2008 at 8:15 amSiobhan C.
I’d like to also add that to find the true definition of love, please read 1Corinthians Chapter 13.
In Love & Everlasting Divine Light,
April 7th, 2008 at 9:14 amSiobhan C.
Go head Siobhan!!!!!!!! and for those of you who Don’t know what she is talking about I will give you a little and you go read the rest ur self:
1)If with the tongues of men and of messengers I speak, and have not love, I have become brass sounding, or a cymbal tinkling;
2)and if I have prophecy, and know all the secrets, and all the knowledge, and if I have all the faith, so as to remove mountains, and have not love, I am nothing;
3)and if I give away to feed others all my goods, and if I give up my body that I may be burned, and have not love, I am profited nothing.
4)The love is long-suffering, it is kind, the love doth not envy, the love doth not vaunt itself, is not puffed up,
5)doth not act unseemly, doth not seek its own things, is not provoked, doth not impute evil,
6)rejoiceth not over the unrighteousness, and rejoiceth with the truth;
7)all things it beareth, all it believeth, all it hopeth, all it endureth.
1 Corinthians 13: 1-7 (Young’s Literal Translation) 8-13 you have to read on ur own.
April 7th, 2008 at 11:49 amOk heres wat i think, i understand that he may be under stress and that you love him but you should also love yourself enough to say that you dont deserve to be treated that way. i think you o it 2 yourself to talk to him about his problems. becuz no one deserves the way that he treats you and no money or gifts is worth it.
April 7th, 2008 at 12:36 pmAll i got to say is drop him because there is no reason he should do these things to you no man nor woman should have to go through pain like that. i may only be 12 but i know it is wrong because one day he might hurt you so much that he could do something VERY bad to you and i think you should tell him he needs to stop or it is over, he might be under stress but he needs to be put in place. maybe if you talk to his mom and she might know why.
April 8th, 2008 at 7:50 pmWow first of all girl, I’m sorry you’re going through that. I think it possibly might be the steroids, because there is a condition called roid rage that can come out of doing steroids that is similar to that…but you never know, it could just be him. I would suggest trying to get him off of em. You know, if he makes it to college they test athletes for steroid use, and might revoke whatever scholarship he gets and wouldn’t let him continue to play..you should tell him that. But if I were you, I would avoid being around him without somebody else there to witness what he’s doing and keep you from getting hurt real bad. He’s less likely to want to thrash out at you with other people around (although it’s not guaranteed). His behavior seems like it is escalating, as with most abusive relationships…and it’s unlikely he will get better unless there’s something that happens that makes him realize he’s being stupid. Perhaps an intervention or something? Idk what the best thing to do is. I dont think you need to necessarily break up with him, I mean, in marriage people go through various stages and you cant just break up lol…but youre not in a marriage, so then again, i dont know. But if you love him as you say, then the best thing would be to stick by his side. But you gotta be safe and do whats good for you, too. Dont put yourself in danger. Try not to be alone with him…and try to get him help of some sort!! Im thinking that if he got over his steroid use, and used that in essays to apply for scholarships, he’d get them for sure, it’s a great story! I got various scholarships (totalling $4,000) for pointing out all my things I’ve gotten over, including drugs & alcohol & coming from an abusive family…perhaps he could, too! I think you should talk to a professional, like a priest or counselor or domestic violence shelter (but be sure you talk to somebody who has a confidentiality clause-who won’t tell the police,etc.) about this, as they are more experienced in this!
April 8th, 2008 at 10:49 pmIm feel so bad on this situation, but u should really talk to hit about the way he takes out his anger on you!just express your thoughts to him!!say how u feel on how he treats you, but make sure you let him kno you luv him! i don’t think he any of that iz right. i didn’t kno love makes sumone take out alot of anger on the person they love. I do understand that he iz badly stressed out!so just be on his side and belive in him and let him kno you believe he can make it! but i do agree wit alot of people in here!
April 11th, 2008 at 8:37 pmI HONESTLY think that u should leave this person alone. Let him no that u care for him, and that in order for u to be in a relationship with him he has to take care of hisself first and stop takin steroids. it seems as if he takes his fustration out on you, and u r not to blame for his actions. Be a true lady and let him go, because although u may luv him there are many more to come…TRUST ME there are!
April 13th, 2008 at 12:22 amGIRL GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN!! IT’LL ONLY GET WORSE…
April 16th, 2008 at 10:58 pmI understand that you may love somebody and that you dont want to bail out on him in a time of need, but now its getting to the point when you are putting yourself in danger. You can still be a friend to him and try to help him get help with his steroid problem without being in a relationship. Sometimes when you love someone you have to let them go. He could be damaging you and you dont even know it by staying in an abusive relationship. Money and fame is never a reason to trade the gift of life! And since it is not his first time putting his hands on you, you should look at the type of relationship that it will become in the future. The abuse will only get worse. More money, more problems remember. This might be your first time in a situation like this….let it be your last. Live by my model for mistakes….1 time a lollipop, 2 times a sucker!!!! Dont be a sucker and end up battered for love! God loves you more than him!
April 17th, 2008 at 5:25 pmWELL FIRST OFF IF HE LOVED U HE WOULD NOT HIT U AND DO THE THINGS THAT HE DO TO U. ALSO U HAVE TO LOVE URSELF MORE TO KNOW THAT HE SHOULD NOT DO THOSE THING TO U. AND IT DONT MATTER WHAT OTHER PEOPLE ARE TELLING U TO DO CUZ WHEN IT ALL COMES DOWN TO IT U HAVE TO BE THE ONE TO MAKE THE DECISION. SO LOVE UR SELF TO KNOW THAT U CAN GET BETTER AND BE TREATED BETTER. AND ONCE A MAN HIT U HE IS ALWAYS GOING TO SAY HE WONT DO IT AGAIN SO KNOW BETTER THAT THINGS ARE NOT GOING TO CHANGE UNTIL U STEAD UP FOR URSELF
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August 8th, 2008 at 1:20 pmi would take him to a rehab center because u dont wan this to get out of hand. Who knows what he could do next? Be careful. Steroids are serious and someone could end up dead. Plz take him to a rehab center if u really love him u would do that
August 15th, 2008 at 6:58 pm