Separated and Seeking Advice

hey Vanessa and Angela i kinda need sum advice. okay it goes like this….i’m in luv w/ this one guy and he says that he luvs me bck but some of the thingz he does jus say sumthin else. ok we’ve been off and on for about a yr. he’s a great guy. i mean he treats me right never put his hands on me and hasnt tried to force me to do anything i dont wanna do(altho i think that might change…mayb im jus bein paraniod) but we jus had a little(ok a pretty big)situation and he played me so far to the left i was on the right.but before that he cheatd on me (w/ his ex)he keeps sayn he’s over her but the odds arent lookn too good. for one:they go to the same school. they were together for 4 yrs. AND they still talk. i mean i’m tryn not to treat him any different jus bcus 1 guy hurt me cus it wudnt b fair and i wudnt want him to treat me like the last girl who hurt him. we were seperated for two months and that killed me and right now we’re takn a break from each other and i cant take it but i need tym to think(which need i remind u isnt workn cus i feel like im about to go crazy…and we’ve onli been seperated 4 a month). all my friends say i shouldnt keep goin back to him and most likely they’re right. i just dont kno wat to do anymore. i’m so torn btween leavn him and stayin w/ him its crazy.

Our advice: We know this is hard, however, we’ve all been there. In this time period of being separated, take time to develop yourself. Get out and do things by yourself or maybe with your friends. This will help you improve yourself and get your mind off him. Make yourself better so no matter if you get back together or not you will be a better person.

As far as the guy, just keep the lines of communication open. Maybe you are insecure because you have been hurt in the past. Maybe he is cheating. Only time will tell. No matter what, stand strong and appreciate your experience. That way you won’t be so hurt no matter what happens.

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