Hold On or Move On?
Hey Angela and Vanessa! I really need your advice on my situation. I talk to this guy and he is very sweet and I really like him a lot. We have been talking to each other for 4 months. He stays way in North Carolina and I live in Alabama so I really don’t get to see him that much. We don’t talk that much either because everytime we talk on the phone, it seems like he’s always making up an excuse saying why he didn’t call me or why he can’t come see me. I really have feelings for him but it feels like he is just playing with my emotions. What should I do? Should I continue to talk to him or should I just move on?
yours sincerely,
“Lost and confused”
Our advice: You have got to look at this situation for what it is. If you are in Alabama and he is in North Carolina, how is that practical? Are either of you minors? Do either of you have a driver’s license? If you are constantly hearing excuses from him as to why he does not call you or why he is too busy to see you then he may be too occupied with his life in North Carolina. Tell him how you feel. Maybe you should just settle with having him as a pen pal or a long distance friend. There is no sense waiting on him if you are not that important to him. Maybe you should concentrate on someone in Alabama.
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just ask him does he really like u if not move if so hold on 2 him.he might 2 busy with his job if he have one or if he’s in middle school ,high school ,or college he may be fed up with class work nd homework or a test.
February 27th, 2009 at 6:00 pmyou should definitely take into consideration how practical the distance between you two is. if you 2 really ahve no way of reaching each other, then you should try your best to move on and make a life for yourself in Alabama as he seems to have done in North Carolina.
February 28th, 2009 at 12:22 amYOU HAVE TO THINK ABOUT IS IT REALLY A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP TO BE SO FAR FROM EACH OTHER. YOU SHOULD REALLY WEIGH ALL YOU OPTIONS ESPECIALLY IF HE IS MAKING UP EXCUSES OF WHY HE DIDN’T TALK TO YOU AND WHAT NOT. THINK ABOUT THE PROS AND THE CONS OF THE RELATIONSHIP AND I’M SURE YOU’LL KNOW THE RIGHT THING TO DO. GOOD LUCK!
February 28th, 2009 at 10:05 pmI have an boyfriend and he i just found out he is my ex ex cousin.then just my ex asked me back out what should i do?
March 1st, 2009 at 12:33 pmI REALLY THINK YOU MOVE ON BECAUSE THERE IS SOMEONE FOR EVERYONE AND JUDGING FROM YOUR STORY HE MAY HAVE BEEN INTRISTED AT FIRST BUT IS NOT READY FOR A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP BUT IF YOU ARE MOVE ON GOD IS IS GOOD AND TRUST ME YOU WILL FIND SOMEONE THAT IS EVEN BETTER AND IS READY FOR EVERYTHING YOU ARE READY FOR JUST TRY A LITTLE THING CALLED WAITNING.
March 1st, 2009 at 3:51 pmmi question is is it a long
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I live in New Jersey and my bf lives Noth Carolina and we r working fine. but we do have our moments. we been going out for 10 months. I think you should fine out the real problem and work it out
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March 1st, 2009 at 7:55 pmmove on if its hes just not intrested anymore but if not i side with bre
March 2nd, 2009 at 1:14 pmgurl if u are really important to him then he would make time for u…. and yeh u need to express your feelings to him… so u can kno if yall are both on the same page
March 2nd, 2009 at 4:31 pmwell i kinda have the same thing going on except i go to school with the boy!! he has known me for 2 days and he told me he wants to go out but he might be moving!!! idk but like everyone said take the distance thing into concideration!!!
March 2nd, 2009 at 9:04 pmyEA I CAN’T FULLY SAY THAT I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN…BUT I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN (LOL)….. you were taking a risk by getting involved in such a relationship, but i can see that you are a committed person and should find someone closer to you so that you can feel appreciated by someone else….TTYL
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