Best Friends Best Kept Secret
Dear Vanessa and Angela Simmons;
I moved schools and houses recently. My best friends and I were separated. My best friend decides to date this guy and decides to not tell me. Then I found out through my other bff that she was dating. We have been arguing for weeks now. She told me it was really none of my business. Don’t best friends tell each other these things? What should I do?
Troubled Fan…
“Jenna”
p.s.
I do know it really is none of my buisness but what can I do to be friends again?
Our advice: When all is said and done, technically it really isn’t your business who your friend dates. We do understand how you feel though. You probably feel if the two of you are close why would she keep something like that a secret from you, right. Why didn’t she share in the joys of dating with you her friend? Sometimes people like to be private in such matters. Maybe she was waiting until it was official that the two of them were dating. Sometimes you have to let people reveal things on their on time on their own terms. As far as arguing, just let it go. Don’t stress that she did not tell you. What’s more important: knowing that your friend is dating or your friendship? You should tell your friend how you felt about keeping such a secret and let her know that you will not have hard feelings over the issue and are willing to let it go. Apologize to her for intruding in her private life and then get back to being friends.
What would you do in this situation? What would you suggest?
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I agree with you guys.
July 21st, 2009 at 4:29 pmwell if ur really as closse as im imagining, then i guessed that’d be a major option,but if they dnt tell u it has to be 4 sum important reason.
July 22nd, 2009 at 12:48 amwell it can be optional because it is your friend who dating him not u just ask yourself would u tell your friends if u were dating
July 22nd, 2009 at 12:43 pmyou have every right to be angry because it’s not really fair that she’s keeping secrets from u and is telling other people. you’re supposed to be friends.
July 25th, 2009 at 10:12 amsince you know it’s know of your business don’t trip and when you get a new boo dont tell her just return the favor
July 29th, 2009 at 8:08 pmwhat kind of relationship do u have with ur freind thats what really matters but u are still her freind so u have an reason t know
August 2nd, 2009 at 11:16 pmI think you should just tell her how you feel and your sorry about everything and dont get mad when she dosent tell you something,Ok…
August 4th, 2009 at 6:37 pmyou should give her some space bcause you could lose her as a friend. Most of the time Besties don’t tell each other everything. Me and my bestie dont so give her some space and you will be aight
August 19th, 2009 at 9:00 pm