Dear Angela and Vanessa Simmons,

    I was dating this boy and we had the strongest bond ever and we just connected right away like it was a meant to be a relationship. But then we broke up because his friend had said something to him about me because before I had a problem because he was talking to my best friend and I started to get jealous and started to wonder about them talking cause she would even call when we weren’t all on the phone. So his friend said if I loved him then I wouldn’t worry but I don’t think that’s true. But anyway then we decided to break up and then he started to talk to my best friend more and more and she had told me that they liked each other and I got mad but at the same time I felt betrayed because she still knew I liked him and she still tried to talk to him. So finally I just stopped calling him because I felt like he was ignoring me and didn’t want to be bothered with me. So three weeks have gone by and I didn’t call him and try to avoid thinking about him and just doing me. But now he recently called me and we started talking and he said he misses me and wants to go back out with me but I had a boyfriend and he knew that so he decided to not ask me, so I had decided to break up with my boyfriend to go back out with him because I still liked him alot. When I did that, he was happy and then I decided to ask him about my friend and what happened to them liking each other and he said that she was becoming “old news” and boring so he didn’t want to talk to her. So when I got home today he had said ask me out and now were going out but my friend seems jealous and I feel kinda gulity. I like him but I’ve been having some thoughts about if I made the right decision to go back with him and don’t know if I should trust my friend. What should I do I’m completely confused and don’t know where to go from here?

Sincerely,
“Lizzie”

Our advice: Schedule time to have a serious talk with this guy and your friend. When clearing the air with the guy, ask him how he really feels about you. This will be your chance to discuss what the both of you want out of the relationship and it is the perfect opportunity to talk about what you expect from each other. When you talk to your friend ask her if you talking to the guy is going to cause tension in your friendship. Now is your chance to express how you felt betrayed by her when she started talking with the guy you used to see (and now see again). Truly listen to what she has to say. Friendships don’t come easy. They two of you really should talk and work things out.

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