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heyy Angela nd Vanessa,
I have a huge problem. c i really really lyk this boy from my church nd to tell u the truth i think i mite even love him i never felt this way for a guy b4. well anywayz i really lyk him but my parents don’t approve of him well come to think of it they don’t really approve of me having a bf period. c the guy is 2 years older than me. my parents already tried to tell me to stop hanging arounf him nd to stop talking to him but i can’t. i jus wish my parents would understand me nd c tht they can’t forbid me from talking to him tht its up to me but they jus don’t get it now wenever i talk to him it has to be in secret nd i hate it i hate the fact tht i have to hid behind my parent’s back. plz help me! wat should i do?!
-”Persia”
Our advice: If your parents want you to stay away from this guy they may have good reason(s). You must respect their wishes. Although your age difference is only two years, you have to consider that it may be fine for an 18 year old to date a 16 year old, but it is not necessarily okay for a 13 yr. old to date a 15 yr. old. We do not know all the details. We suggest you have a sit down talk with your parents and ask them their rules on dating for you. Ask them why they do not want you around this guy. Explain how you feel about the situation. Whatever your parents say, understand and respect their position.
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hey persia i know how u feel my mother wants me to stop talking to this boy who goes to the same jr.high school as me and we are like really good friends because we really understand each other and the things that each other go through and i feel bad still talking to him behind her back but i do agree with you that is your decision if you decide to stop talking to him or not good luck
sincerely chelsea k.
October 14th, 2008 at 4:08 pmI think that in a situation like this you should respect your parents wishes because they only want the best for you in life and nothing more you could still be friends with that person but nothing more. your parents are only deciding what best for you and what can make you a better person so for now respect their wishes and remain just friends with that person.
yours truly
October 14th, 2008 at 4:13 pmchelsea k.
Hey Persia i am in that same situation but not exactly the guy i like is 1 year younger than me im 14 so you get da picture. But your mom and dad is just looking out for you and your best interest. I know its hard not to hang out with a guy you really like but i always tell myself if it was meant to be then love will find a way. If your parents don’t like him for his attitudes towards people or a reputation he has then you should probably stay away from him for a while. If he’s a nice guy and treats you good and you’ve known him for a long time then life will figure a way out for yall to hang out. But if you didn’t know him for a long time say a year or more as good friends then trust me you don’t love like you think you do. To tell a person you love them takes time.
i think you know what to do!! not every time you should follow your instincts!!!
October 15th, 2008 at 4:52 pmBest of Luck!