Diamond Drama!
Heeeeyyyy Angela and Vanessa!
Can you help me out with some of your good advice? Here is what’s up with me. My boyfriend “Kelvin” at the time gave me a beautiful diamond necklace for Christmas. In the middle of January, I found out he was cheating on me with this girl with a real messed up reputation by the name of “Shelby”. I don’t play that cheating stuff so I told him it was over and we broke up. He did not think I was serious. He kept messing around with “Shelby” until she got with some other boy. A week before Valentine’s Day he asked me if I was still down for him. I told him no. He then decided he wanted the diamond necklace back. I said no. He kept asking me to give it back because it turned out that the necklace belonged to his mother. He just went and took it from her and gave it to me. I told him I was not giving it back because he gave it to me as a gift and he cheated on me. Last week his mother called my house and asked me to give it back. I want to keep it because it is a nice necklace that I may want to sell and because he cheated on me. I want to keep it. What do you think I should do?
Our advice: You should give the necklace back to his mother. We understand that your feelings were hurt with him cheating on you, but if you keep the necklace in a way you are holding on to that relationship. You are holding on to his cheating and everything negative about him. Why would you want to hold on to that? Another reason to give it back is because the necklace is his mother’s property. Remember, he stole it from her. It was never his to give no matter how much he was trying to impress you. How would you feel if you were in the mother’s position? If you hold onto the necklace, the drama will escalate. I’m sure the mother is going to go after her necklace. Give it back! You will enjoy a diamond necklace actually bought and given to you by someone who really appreciates you as opposed to a cheater who stole something from someone else and then wanted it back.
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i feel it is good advice. if i was you i would have feel deep down inside to cry every time i see the necklace but i can see your a strong person that dont give up, and thats cool.
March 24th, 2009 at 8:22 pmYeah you are a very strong person, which is good. Ummm if it belonged to his mum I think you shud give it back, good luck anyway!!! x
March 24th, 2009 at 8:36 pmhi gurl me again
March 25th, 2009 at 2:15 amyeh gurl… u have to give it back… and wat a loser he is!…lol… he cheated on you and stoled a necklace from his mother… im glad u broke up with him
March 25th, 2009 at 10:49 amYou should give it back……remember that show on Daddy’s Girls when Angela’s daddy sent that ring to her from her ex. Angela didn’t know what to do but then she did she was goin to throw it off a cliff but she didn’t even though she pretended to do but in the end she kept it but she was goin to sell. I’m not sayin sell it but give it back Vanessa and Angela were right holdin on to the necklace was like holdin on to negative things and rememberin what he did to you.
March 25th, 2009 at 11:07 amThey right girl…you should give that necklace back…because it would sound like you were with him just because of the necklace even if he cheated on you and you thrully know that it’s for his mother so it’s better for you to give it back….
March 25th, 2009 at 12:42 pmI think you should just give the necklace back and just try to keep away from all drama and just go on living your life!!!!!!!!!!
April 5th, 2009 at 8:54 pmI think that the guy said it was his mother’s necklace as a lie to get her to give the necklace back. Think about, she’s had it for MONTHS, from christmas until the time they broke up and his mother didn’t call for it back. All of sudden, it’s his Mom’s and you want to give it back? Naw…
His mother called her to “back up” his son’s lie, because his mom thinks he should have it back.
Even if it was his mothers, he stole from his own mother. His mother should be upset with his son, and why it took them that long to “want” the necklace back?
A gift is a gift. And yeah, you might think of him from time to time but I would sale it at eBay or pawn it, and continue with life.
He’s lieing about that being his mom’s necklace, sorry, but that story sounded really fishy.
(I know I’m MAD late but hopefully you kept it. If you gave it back, oh well, he’s lier and a cheater anyway.)
April 23rd, 2009 at 8:45 pm