hi v & a! over xmas my boyfriends big brother came home from college. omg! he was tall too fine & sexy. he is also smart a gentleman and plays basketball for his school. they say he is real good. he is like my boo but so much more in so many ways. i think i like him. is this wrong for me to feel this way?

Our advice: We understand. Someone’s level of attractive qualities can not be denied. There will always be someone more attractive, smarter, sexier, richer, than the person you may be involved with. However, you have to keep things in perspective. Just because has so many good qualities does not mean he will be best for you. You should not compare your boyfriend’s brother to his older brother (or anyone else). It would not be best to pursue the older brother because you don’t really know the older brother and he would never seriously consider dating you because after all, you are someone his brother is dating.

What would you suggest? Should she go for it or fall back and leave it alone?

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The week before Christmas my man and my best friend “Tiffany” were hanging out way too close for me. I would call her on the celly and heard him in the background. She said it was not him. Then I bumped into the two of them at the mall. That both looked stupid and cold busted! They came by my house Christmas to give me a gift. He gave me a necklace and said they was only hanging out so she could help pick out his gift for me. I cursed them both out and told them to leave. Was I wrong? She alwayz used to tel me how cute he is.

Our advice: Although we understand your lack of trust, we do think you may be being a bit extreme. Just because you are seeing someone it does not make him less attractive to others. Attractive is attractive. You will have to be more secure in your relationship with him and your friendship with her. Until there is further evidence/proof you can’t just accuse people of cheating on you.

What would you suggest she do? Was she wrong?

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This Christmas my boyfriend of 4 years proposed to me. I know I should be happy about this, however, I am not. I just graduated from college this past May and would like to pursue my career. All my friends say I am crazy for not being so excited about the proposal. What do you think?

Signed,

Crazy or Correct

Our advice: Although a proposal is great, it really depends on how YOU feel. Think about it seriously. Are you not interested in marrying him or are you just not ready for marriage yet? Think about it and then discuss your real feelings to the one proposing to you.

Hey girls!

This is my problem. I just moved to a new town in another state. I told my boyfriend that it was best that we breakup because we are 4 and a half hours away from each other now. I still have feelings for him but thought it was unrealistic to continue our relationship. I also want to start fresh. My old boyfriend did not take this too well. He cursed me out and has even cut school a few times to visit me unannounced. It has become somewhat scary. Almost stalkerish. What should I do?

Our advice: We do not want you to panic but you should inform your parents asap. Next time you talk to him inform him of how you do not like his unannounced visits and how his now stalker ways are making you uneasy. Let him know that this can’t continue. Also, have your parents inform his parents that he has been cutting school to drive 4 and a half hours to see you. If things persist, you may have to involve the law and get a restraining order. Good luck!

What would you suggest? Do you think he has become a stalker? Let us know!

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dere angela and vanessa. here is my problem. i like this boy “Jordan” a lot. the problem is he is my best freinds “Gina’s” man. they do not get along at all. they alwayz fightin and stuff. she is real mean to him and just treat him like a dog. she even cheats on him with a few other boys. when he and i are together we laugh a lot and have fun. he reelly is nice. should i tell him she is a cheater?

Our advice: We understand you like “Jordan” a lot but we strongly suggest you not tell him anything about “Gina’s” cheating ways. Although she may be treating him wrong, it is their relationship to work out if they choose. Even if you like him for yourself, this is going to cause major drama between you and your bff, “Gina”. Maybe you should sit down with her and ask how she feels about him? Ask her why she treats him so bad and why she cheats on him. Then tell her how you may be interested in him if she does not take him seriously. If your bff does not have a problem with you seeing “Jordan” fine- go for it. If she is offended by what you have to say back off and leave him alone. True friendships are not worth giving up over a guy to date.

What would you ladies suggest?

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i need help, i have a bf who is 2 years older than me. and people in mi school have been making fun of us and calling me bad names. but i really like this guy. and he really likes me. what should i do??

Our advice: Although it may be hard, we suggest you ignore the name calling. It’s very petty of the people calling you harsh names. If you regard someone as a friend and other people have a problem with it, that’s on them. Stand strong and proud of your friendship! True friendships are rare.

What do you think of her situation? What would you do? Let us know!

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Hey! Angela and Vanessa, 
i think you guys are gorgeous and i congratualte cha’ll on tha shoes dey is hot!
   Im 14 nd im in 9th grade. But i got a problem. Im in love wit my ex, and he loves me to, but we been on and off since 6th grade. We go ta different skools and he want me back but i dnt kno. He wuld break up wit me nd go find sum if he cnt get it from me(cuh he kno im still a virgin). but anyhow wen he dun wit dat gurl he’ll ask me bak out and of course i wuld say yes. Im tryna leave tha past but i cnt, im so in love wit em. But he really is a great guy he there for me if i need em, and he listens and understands me. There also have been sum incidents to…he cheated on me 2 tyms, he promised me he wuldnt do it again nd he didnt. But there are also otha boiz that are tryna talk ta me nd i dnt wanna hurt em cuh dey great guys to. I lyk a couple of dem nd dnt kno who to chose…eitha my ex, or one of tha otha 3 boiz??? Help me PLZ!!
 
    Sincerly,
       Gurl in love<3 
            

Our advice: You need to give yourself to see other guys. We understand you still have strong feelings for the guy, but you have been involved with him since 6th grade. Give someone else a chance. You may like him better. It’s just not necessarily the best thing to date one person for such a long period of time and not get a chance to know others. You miss out on experiencing new things and growing. It’s great you and your ex still have a good relationship. Maybe one day you can resume it, but sometimes there are good reasons someone is your ex.  We can’t decide this for you. You will have to seriously think about it.

What would you suggest? Would you try to make it work with the on again off again ex or take a chance and date someone new?

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I have the usual boy problem. I like two different boys that are so different. “Jeffrey” is real nice and treats me well. He has always been there for me. He is very smart . He even helps with underpriveledged families. He is handsome and everyone says he is the perfect guy, a complete angel. Then there is “Trent”. “Trent” has been suspended a number of times from school. He is not handsome like “Jeffrey” but there is something about him. He once stole a car to take me out. I know that is not good but I kinda thought it was sweet he did it for me. He even man handles me. No he has not hit me, but he sometimes grabs me or pulls me close. I have to admit it turns me on. He is the bestest kisser ever. He is real intense. I like them both but know I can only be with one. Whats a girl to do?

Signed,

2 tough & 2 nice 2 choose

Our advice: You will have to decide for yourself on this one. Only you know which of these gentlemen you like. We REALLY think you should consider “Trent’s” behaviour. This stealing cars, man handling, grabbing, etc. is cause for concern. These seem to be RED FLAGS of  worse behaviour to come.  We really need you to think abot this…SERIOUSLY!

Who do you think she should choose? What would you suggest? Are we right about our advice?

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