Pastry Advice

Hey there Vanessa and Angela Simmons!

I have a friendship problem. Recently I just backed out from a friendship with “Dina” because she keeps pestering me to do things she prefers like when we’re all gonna go have a picnic, she would insist that I wear a certain dress of her choice. Annoying right? So I have been avoiding her but only because I needed time to cool down from being all frustrated and sad towards her behaviour and the fact that I couldn’t bring myself to tell her the truth.

So quite recently she got into a major fight with her best friend and her best friend actually blabbed to me about stuffs which happened. Another friend and I discussed it over and this friend actually went to tell her friend who is close to “Dina”, “Now the whole world knows what a pain “Dina” is.” When truth is, I would never call anyone rude names. And “Dina” actually believed her. Okay that’s besides the point.

“Dina” then asked me why I was avoiding her and didn’t wanna go home together and all. So I told her that I’ve emotional problems and I chose not to hang out with anyone because I needed my own time and that I was easily ticked off, not wanting to ruin the happy mood by being sulky. I thought she would understand, but what she said next was beyond my expectation and made me cry – “HAHA NONSENSE!”

How rude, right? I like being her friend because she’s really fun to hangout with, but she’s got attitude. What do I do?

Thanks!

Our advice: It seems like “Dina” has a hard time getting things through her head. She does not seem to listen. You and she should have a one on one talk. Forget talking to shared friends about your shared experiences with her- this leads to a lot of he said she said that you don’t need. Sit down with her and calmly (but sternly) tell her about how her actions make you feel. Inform her of how controlling she is and how she ignores what you have to say. Cite examples. Sternly tell her that you enjoy having her as a friend but her negative actions must stop if you two are to remain friends and hang out. Make suggestions to her on how she can avoid such negative behavior. Give her time to think about what you have said. Remember, controlling people can’t be true friends.

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Dear Vanessa And Angela Simmons, 
 
Well, There Is This Boy That Im So In Love With. I’ve Been Liking Him For Over A Year Now. 
He Knows I Like Him And He Says He Likes Me Too. I Cant Stop Thinking About Him. Anyways, He Moves With His Grandparents For The School Year, So Didnt See Him Alot. He Comes Around My Way Every Now And Then On Breaks And Weekends. I See Him But Just Haven’t Actually Got The Chance To Talk To Him (Since He So Busy Playing Football). The Only Time We Talk Is On Myspace And Thats Like Every 2 To 3 Months. Last Time We Talked Was 2Months Ago And He Stilled Like Me At The Time,BuT I Think He Was Playing Me Or Something. But While This Is All Going On Hes Talking To Previous Ex-Girlfriends On The Phone Every So Often.There Telling Me Every Thing.When He Is Talking To His Previous Girlfriends There Not Flirty There Just Talking Like FRIENDS. Am I Jealous? I Get So Upset Cause I Gave Him My Number Online But He Doesn’t Never Seem To Call Me. So Now I Dont Know What to Do. Should I Just Get Over Him Or What?? I Just Dont Know What To DO Cause I’m Deeply In Love With Him. 
 

Our advice: We understand that you have such strong feelings for this guy. We have all been where you are. The real issue is not about his ex-girlfriends and if they are just friends to him or something more to him. The real issue is does he have time for you? If you two only talk every couple of months how do you two have a relationship? How does he find time to talk to his exes before he talks to you. How often does he speaks to these exes? If you are not talking to him as much as the exes are you are not a priority to him. If you are not a priority to him please do not imagine a relationship when there isn’t one. Remember, there are other people out there. You will find someone who will find time to talk to you on a regular basis.

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Dear Angela and Vanessa Simmons,

There is this guy I really like, but I just blew my opportunity at meeting him. It was the last day of school and my friends had arranged for me to meet him, so instead of me being brave I just walked away before he got there. i had gotten really nervous. But what I really need to know is, should I just give up liking him, which will be hard to do, or just keep trying to get his attention??

Sincerely,

“Shy But Fly”

Our advice: We are sorry to hear of your missed opportunity. Let’s start off with what did you learn from the experience? It seems you should have learned to control your fear. Fear caused you to miss out on a great opportunity. Never allow shyness to do that ever again. Do not quit! Just because you were overcome with fear to act the first time does not mean you will do so again. Find courage, stand tall and go for it! 

What would you suggest?  Would you go after him?

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Dear Vanessa and Angela Simmons;

First off i love your shoes i just got a new pair for my b-day!!!

So i was friends with this boy in 7th grade lets call him Jack Jr, so i asked him to go with me in the 8th grade and the relationship was at first rocky then the summer came and we both fell in love(he told me that he loved me and I told him the same).  We ended up going to different schools for high school.  We were doin fine at first then he started actin different, so we broke up after 9 months together.  during the first few months we were still in love and then he got a new gf but that didnt last either.  now it has been almost 5 months since we broke and i am still in love with him, but i dont think he loves or even likes me. we’re still best friends like before but i dont want to ruin that by tryin to get with him if he dont want to I, just want to know but dont want to ruin what we have? what should i do? i know i should ask him but are their anyways to tell if he is still interested?

Our advice: There is no sense wondering. Find out! If you two are still close you should be able to express your feelings without destroying the friendship you have. You have to be sure you will be comfortable with whatever his answer is. It may get a bit fuzzy with being friends with your ex, but it can be a meaningful relationship that endures and even blossoms to something more. At this time, accept him as a friend. Don’t pressure him because it will scare him off as a bf and friend. Play it cool.

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Dear Vanessa and Angela Simmons;

I need help They is this boy at my school i used to like and something happend my friend at school told me that he said he like me and i just kept quiet i didnt even say anything to him. he knows that i like him he just keeping quiet. and every where i look he is there at school he keeps stiring at me i dont no why He said to my friend he wants to meet me outside of school to talk to me but i was really scared what he was gone say so i didnt turn up. But he kept saying he wants to met me all the time but I kept not turning up. But know I dont no what to do know because at school every where I go he is there. and when i am with my friends he calls my friends to come here and i go as well with my friends and then he says a joke and he keeps stiring at me he cant stop stiring at me as i dont no why. I want say hi to him but I am scared what he is gone say. but all his mate says hi to me and i say hi back  he looks down on me I dont no why but he says a joke to my friends but he doesnt say a joke me he doesnt say anything to and he says hi to my friends but he doesnt say hi to me. but his friends says hi to me. me and my best friend when we walk past him i dont laugh  athim but my friend does I also tell my best friend to give up. I want to  befriends with him and talk to him and stuff I think he still likes or not I am scared what he is gone say and I havent told my other friends i just kept it to myself and my best friend. But its really doing my heading. and he is going to be in my lessons in grade 7th and i have to sit next to him. I am scared what he is gone say. i dont no waht to do please help me please please.
 

Our advice: It seems the both of you are being unreasonably shy. If you really want to start talking to him you may have to get the courage to speak to him first. He is just as shy as you are. If neither of you talk to one another you will never get to know one another and a relationship will not develop. Someone has got to break the ice. Whose it going to be? Go for what you want.

What would you suggest to these two? Should she be bold and modern and speak first or should she follow tradition and let him speak first?

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Dear Angela and Vanessa Simmons,

    I was dating this boy and we had the strongest bond ever and we just connected right away like it was a meant to be a relationship. But then we broke up because his friend had said something to him about me because before I had a problem because he was talking to my best friend and I started to get jealous and started to wonder about them talking cause she would even call when we weren’t all on the phone. So his friend said if I loved him then I wouldn’t worry but I don’t think that’s true. But anyway then we decided to break up and then he started to talk to my best friend more and more and she had told me that they liked each other and I got mad but at the same time I felt betrayed because she still knew I liked him and she still tried to talk to him. So finally I just stopped calling him because I felt like he was ignoring me and didn’t want to be bothered with me. So three weeks have gone by and I didn’t call him and try to avoid thinking about him and just doing me. But now he recently called me and we started talking and he said he misses me and wants to go back out with me but I had a boyfriend and he knew that so he decided to not ask me, so I had decided to break up with my boyfriend to go back out with him because I still liked him alot. When I did that, he was happy and then I decided to ask him about my friend and what happened to them liking each other and he said that she was becoming “old news” and boring so he didn’t want to talk to her. So when I got home today he had said ask me out and now were going out but my friend seems jealous and I feel kinda gulity. I like him but I’ve been having some thoughts about if I made the right decision to go back with him and don’t know if I should trust my friend. What should I do I’m completely confused and don’t know where to go from here?

Sincerely,
“Lizzie”

Our advice: Schedule time to have a serious talk with this guy and your friend. When clearing the air with the guy, ask him how he really feels about you. This will be your chance to discuss what the both of you want out of the relationship and it is the perfect opportunity to talk about what you expect from each other. When you talk to your friend ask her if you talking to the guy is going to cause tension in your friendship. Now is your chance to express how you felt betrayed by her when she started talking with the guy you used to see (and now see again). Truly listen to what she has to say. Friendships don’t come easy. They two of you really should talk and work things out.

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Hello Angela and Vanessa Simmons! Before I tell you two my problem I have to say  I idolise the pair of you!
I am an Irish girl who is an avid Pastry maker… with a problem!
 
 
I like this boy we will call him “Justin”. I really like “Justin” and I think he kind of likes me back but there’s a problem!
Two of my really close friends like him and he really doesn’t like them. He called them bad things! “Justin” also has 
this ex-girlfriend who is really  rough. I am afraid that if she finds out we are dating (which she will) she might harm me…badly!
So what do i do?  I really need help and fast!!!
Thank you!!

signed off- “Afraid!” xox

Our advice: It seems like you have a lot of drama coming at you in many directions regarding this boy “Justin”. We must admit, this is a bit difficult. We suggest that you really find out if going out with “Justin” is really worth it. Your friends may hold a degree of resentment if you start seeing him because they like him and there is the issue with the “Justin’s” rough ex. We really don’t want to see you involved with  a violent confrontation with his ex. Maybe you should ask him if he is still involved with the ex. See if  he can explain why she acts violent. You may want to even talk to the ex before pursuing “Justin”. You may also ask your friends how they would feel if you started seeing “Justin”. Ask them if they think it will effect your friendship. Ultimately, the choice is yours. Know that his ex has no right to behave in such a violent manner toward you. Think it over, discuss the issues with all parties involved, and decide.

What would you suggest? Should she go for it? 

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Dear Vanessa & Angela Simmons;

My Names “Cordelia” and I’m From Sheffield, England. I Keep Stressing Out Because All My Friends Know What They Are Doing When They Leave School & I Don’t Have A Clue What I Want To Do. Since I Was Little I Wanted To Be An Artist Because I’m Really Good At Drawing, Mainly Graffiti Though. Now I’m Just Clueless. I Dont Even Know Why I’m Thinking About The Future Because I’m Only In Year and I Just Have 1 More Year To Go. Lol. Do You Have Any Suggestions On What I Should Do?

“Cordelia”
Stay Blessed! x

Our advice: The future will be here before you know it. It is always wise to think ahead and have an idea what you would like to become. You are still young and have plenty of time to think about what your future endeavors are. However, start thinking about it. People your age really have not experienced much in careers and really have no clue. Although your peers claim to know what they will be doing a lot of them don’t. You are not alone. If drawing and art are your passion, you have at least a first step. You know what you like. You may want to look into becoming an artist or work in a field in the art realm. Look into. Read on it. Make sure you put forth your best in the time you have remaining in school. It can open doors for you and it will equip you with knowledge. Don’t stress yourself too much. You have time and you know that art is your passion.

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